comparison with others

Comparison is the act of evaluating personal self worth in terms of others.comparing yourself with others is very much good only within a certain proportion at which you are able to spring   positively  .
However most people get into comparison resulting to self pity at the end. This very attitude should be  extremely examine in order to have peaceful daily living as this may result to suicide  “You shouldn't compare yourself to others!”,
people might tell you.
Of course, without an explanation this is
about as good advice as “Just be yourself!” or
“Just be more confident!”.
Most likely it will not help at all.
So, why shouldn’t we compare ourselves to
others?
One reason is that there is always someone –
or more likely, a bunch of folks – better than
you.
If you focus your mind to compare your life to
other people´s lives you will always find
someone new above you. And your self-
esteem will take a beating.
If you get a nicer shoe to feel better compared
to neighbour next door and you will feel
satisfied for a while. The next day, on you
way to work, you notice that the guy who's
always out working at mechanic shop has an even better shoe than you.One of the big reasons we compare our lives
is to get approval. And in general I think that
wanting approval from others is a big obstacle
in both personal growth and living a happy
life. We may want the neighbours, friends
etc. to think/say: “Did you see that new car/
swimming-pool/shoes? It is the coolest on the
block. S/he´s is moving up in the world”.
A problem with comparing yourself to others
and wanting approval from them is that you
let others control how you feel in life. You feel
bad when you are saving for the new car. You
feel great when you finally have gotten
enough money to drive it home. And then you
feel bad again when you see that someone
else has an even finer automobile.
It´s a bit like being puppet and having other
people pulling the strings. They limit you
movements and your life. You might have
some movement but the strings controls
which way you are going.
How to gain that inner freedom
The thing about lessening your need for
approval is that you have give up both
positive and negative approval. They are
connected because when if you no longer
crave positive cheers and approval from
people then you will no longer have fears of
not getting that approval either.
When you really start to give it up – which
might have to be done over time and with
patience as your ego probably will want to
snap back to seeking that sweet, sweet
approval – you start to realise that neither of
them are that important. They are really only
as important as you decide they are. You are
what you think you are and the world is what
you think it is.
Another way to free yourself is to put in some
massive, drastic action. Like, instead of
driving your car, starting to ride a bicycle to
work. This could catapult you right into
disapproval and let you move outside your
comfort zone quickly. When you first move
out of your comfort zone it is uncomfortable.
But after a while you get used to it and theit shows up
serve the feeling in your mind and body
without judging it. If you just let it in and
observe it for maybe a minute or two
something wonderful happens. The feeling
just vanishes. Yeah, I know, it sounds weird
but give it a try.
The funny thing is when you no longer need
approval from others, when you stop
comparing yourself to others you will have a
greater inner freedom to do what you want.
You will notice positive opportunities in your
life that wasn't there before.
And, as usual, dont feel too bad or beat
yourself up if you snap back to wanting
approval. Just get back on track the next day,
keep it up and gradually you will change.