9 steps to a more happier life

The earnest desire of everyone is happiness and satisfaction ,but each day passes and we experience some sort of happiness or pain which is not ought to be,life is more than just what we see ,to get on the smoother side of life ,happiness is a much needed lubricant to get on everyday life frictions.most times our happiness is dependent on others happiness.;here is a list of nine things you should know about happiness

1. Ideal circumstances.
The happiest people do not live with a certain
set of circumstances, but rather with a certain
set of attitudes. Choosing to be positive and
grateful for what you have now is going to
determine how you’re going to live the rest of
your life. So look for something positive about
today. Even if you have to look a little harder
than usual, it still exists.
Ultimately, your greatest achievements are
moments in time when what you’re doing allows
you to see how wonderful your life already is.

2. Everyone’s approval.
The biggest prison you will likely ever live in is
your fear of what other people think.
You cannot let other people tell you who you are
or what you want. You have to decide that for
yourself. When you’re making big decisions,
remember, what you think of yourself and your
life is more important than what people think of
you. Don’t let others make you feel guilty for
living your life. It’s YOUR life. As long as you’re
not hurting anyone else, live it YOUR way.
Fulfillment and success in life lie in your ability
to use your entire mind to achieve your goals,
dreams and desires. Take sufficient time to
spend with yourself, without external
interference. You’re worth it. (Angel and I
discuss this in more detail in the “Self-Love”
chapter of 1,000 Little Things Happy, Successful
People Do Differently.)

3. A perfect past.
Do not let the shadows of your past darken the
doorstep of your present and future. Let go,
forgive and move forward. Just because the past
didn’t turn out like you had hoped, doesn’t
mean your future can’t be better than you had
envisioned. In fact, we often grow stronger in
the places we were once broken. Because it’s
not until you’re broken for a while that you truly
learn what you’re made of on the inside. And
this insight gives you the ability to rebuild
yourself, stronger than ever before.
Most of the time the only difference between
long-term happiness and long-term despair is
not quitting on yourself. As long as you are
breathing it’s never too late. Today is a new
beginning.

4. Full control of life’s constant changes.
Life is constantly changing and we’re changing
with it. We’re not the same person we were a
year ago, a month ago, or a week ago. Life’s
cycle doesn’t stop. Change is what it’s all about.
But every ending is the beginning of something
else. Every exit is an entry somewhere else.
Live, learn, and let go. Don’t hold yourself down
with the changes you can’t control.
Although some forces are out of your control,
you can control how you react to things.
Everyone’s life has positive and negative aspects
– whether you’re happy or not depends greatly
on which aspects you focus on. The best thing
you can do is to let go of what you can’t control,
and invest your energy in the things you can.
Live simply, love generously, speak truthfully,
breathe deeply, do your best, and leave the rest
to the powers above you. (Read The Road Less
Traveled.)

5. A carefree, stress-free life.
Great challenges make life interesting;
overcoming them makes life meaningful. Don’t
wait until everything is just right; it will never be
perfect. There will always be challenges,
obstacles and less than perfect conditions. So
what! Get started now! With each step you take,
you will grow stronger and stronger, more
skilled, more confident, and more successful.
Say it: “I am determined to live a happy life no
matter my challenges! I will turn all my tales of
fury into tales of glory! I will turn all of my tales
of woe into tales of WOW!” And no matter what
happens, just do your best and appreciate what
you’re learning. You won’t enjoy your life if you
don’t enjoy your challenges.
6. All the things you don’t have.
You are right here, right now, with what you
have, breathing. Enjoy it. You’ve got nothing to
do today except to smile.
Happiness is valuing what you have, and
enjoying the people, places, objects and events
in your life for what they are. It’s not about
changing and achieving all the time; sometimes
it’s about being and appreciating. And you can
nearly always enjoy the things you have and the
events happening around you if you make up

your mind firmly that you will.
7. A mountain of money.
If we counted our blessings more often, instead
of our money, we would be a lot richer. Keep
money on your mind but out of your heart.
Never get so busy making a living that you
forget to make a life for yourself. Cultivate your
spiritual growth. The real measure of your
wealth is how much you’d be worth if you lost
all your money.
Happiness formula = Do your best and
appreciate what you have.
Unhappiness formula = Compare yourself to
others and the things they have.It’s nice to have
money and the things that money can buy, but
it’s also important to make sure you haven’t lost
track of the things that money can’t buy. You
don’t need a lot of money to lead a rich life.
Good friends and a loving family are worth their
weight in gold. It really is the little things that
mean the most… like a long hug at just the right
time. (Read The Happiness Project.)

8. Any event happening in another time and
place.
Make your time count. Do not wish your
moments away. Do not ruin today by focusing
on another time and place. There is only now;
realize how rich you are in it.
Right now you are creating history – your legacy.
Don’t let life slip by without being aware of it.
Life works in a strange way: You want
something and you work and wait and work and
wait, and feel like it’s taking forever to come.
Then it happens and it’s over and all you want
to do is relive all the great memories you made
along the way.
Happiness is the journey. Open your eyes. Don’t
miss it.

9. Constant happiness.
The bottom line is that you can’t be happy
unless you’re unhappy sometimes. Life is not
always perfect, and the utopian world of
constant happiness in not natural, nor should
you expect it.
In the short-term, your mood will fluctuate, but
it is your ability to realize and deal with these
fluctuations that allows you to maintain long-
term happiness. Any fool can be happy when
times are good. It takes a strong soul with real
heart to develop smiles out of situations that
make most people weep. But it is possible.
Live every day of your life in full. Experience the
highs and the lows, the positives and the
negatives, and all the moods present between
the various extremes. Don’t focus on simply
being happy. Focus on living a well-rounded,
seasoned life. Focus on achieving completeness.
Yes, happiness is part of this completeness, but
so is sadness, difficulty, frustration, and failure.
And overcoming these latter points supports
your personal growth far more than constant
happiness.
Next steps…
Choose happiness today by taking life moment
by moment, complaining very little, and being
thankful for the little things that mean a lot.
Your turn…
What would you add to the list?

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Real facts of life

. Life could turn out to be a very busy one with much  hustling and bustling and sometimes we forget some little important facts of life , which later gets us in the web of regrets .here are some facts that will help us  see life in a much different perspective.

1.Appreciation you deserve
Life is one mystery that sometimes get you wondering why those that require appreciation are not duly given,now this one fact you should understand ,have a mindset that never expect good in return this will save you much sorrow when a "thank you" doesn't come

2.Don't educate your children to be rich.
Educate them to be Happy, so when they
grow up they will know the value of things not
the price.

3.Best awarded words in London ...
Eat your food as your medicines. Otherwise
you have to eat medicines as your food

4.The One who loves you will never leave you
because even if there are 100 reasons to give
up he will find one reason to hold on.

5.There is a lot of difference between human
being and being human.
A Few understand it.

6.You are loved when you are born. You will
be loved when you die.
In between You have to manage...!

7.life and fate has placed where you are today its not a mistake ! don't bother much why you there because God has a divine purpose for you  ..it might be to give the people around hope

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13 cool reasons to be smart !

1. You Don't Have To Try As Hard
Contrary to popular belief, it's really cool to
be smart! Being brainy has a lot of perks, so
get ready to soak up all of the great things
that life has to offer you.
First of all, you don't have to try as hard to
do well. If you've already got the knowledge,
it takes a lot less effort to do well on a test,
finish an assignment, study, or get your work
done. With all of that time back at your
disposal, you can fit in plenty of fun on the
side!

2. Being Smart Is In
In the olden days, being smart meant that
you were looked down upon as a "nerd" or a
"geek," and mocked mercilessly for your
intelligence. These days, though, being smart
is considered "in." Even one of the biggest hit
shows on TV, 'The Big Bang Theory,' revolves
around smart people!
It's a great time to be smart, so don't bother
dumbing yourself down. Be proud of your
intelligence!

3. Win More Arguments
If you ever get into debates or arguments with
people, you know how much high intelligence
can help! Smart people win arguments left
and right, because they always know how to
out-smart their adversaries.
They may find you annoying and say that you
think you're "smarter than everyone else," but
so what? You actually are, so if the shoe fits,
put it on and go for a run!

4. Get Better Jobs
You've probably heard it said that you should
be nice to the nerds, because you'll end up
working for them someday. That saying didn't
come into existence for no reason!
Smart people generally have the qualifications
and intellect required to snag better jobs.
That's just the way it is. You might as well be
one of those people on top of the job market,
right?

5. Understand the Best Jokes and
References
Some jokes are so intelligently planned and
executed that they sail right over the heads of
people of average intelligence. If you're
smart, though, you'll be able to understand
even the most difficult-to-comprehend jokes!
Who doesn't love a good joke?

6. Raise Smarter Kids
If you're hoping to start a family one day (or
you're already in the process of doing so),
think about your kids! Smarter parents usually
result in more intelligent children, either due
to genetics or learned behaviors.
Creating a new generation of intellectuals can
only be good for humanity as a whole, so
passing your smarts onto your kids is very
cool, indeed!

7. Be a More Well-Rounded Person
Uneducated people generally have a very
small view of the world around them, and
they miss out on a lot of the great things life
has to offer. That rarely happens to smart
people, though! They see things that the
average person would never even notice, and
they understand the way things work in a
completely different way.
If you're smart, rejoice and remember that
it's part of what makes you such a cultured
and well-rounded person.

8. Make More Money
Like we mentioned earlier, smart people have
a tendency to get better jobs than the average
Joe Schmoe. As you can imagine, money goes
along with that! Intelligent people are more
likely to have incredible job opportunities that
result in high paychecks.
It doesn't get much cooler than a big pile of
green. Bill Gates would probably agree.

9. Better Conversational Skills
Some people have a hard time with holding
long, thoughtful conversations. But if you're
smart, you have plenty of interesting things to
say, and you'll be better equipped to turn
those tidbits into an actual conversation.
Interpersonal relationships are one of the
most important things in life, and
communication is the key to success, so this
perk definitely comes in handy!

10. Get More Respect
Have you ever heard someone go on a rant
against "silly people"? Honestly, the world is
filled with uneducated folks who can be a real
drain on the rest of society. As a result,
disrespect is sent their way regularly, and they
probably don't have any idea why.
Intelligent people, on the other hand, are
respected by their peers and sometimes even
complete strangers. That's an incredibly good
feeling!

11. Get Awarded for Your Brilliance
Athletes get a lot of rewards for playing a
good game or getting a certain rank, but what
do smart people get for being intelligent?
Well, oftentimes they get prizes, too!
Whether you're in school or working in an
adult job, rewards are given for being
successful, and intelligence can help you get
there. It could come in the form of a trophy, a
plaque, or even a promotion or raise!

12. Even the Celebs Are Doing It
If you thought being smart equated to being
stuffy, boring, and/or ugly, think again! Even
some of the most glamorous celebrities have
brilliant minds, with some going so far as to
pursue higher education in Ivy League
schools.
Here's just a short list of celebrities who are
considered very smart:
• Natalie Portman
• Emma Watson
• Jake Gyllenhaal
• Rashida Jones
• Conan O'Brien
• Matt Damon

13. Be Surrounded By Greatness
Finally, if the company of celebrities doesn't
interest you, maybe the company of fictional
characters will! These are just some of the
totally awesome intelligent characters the
world has come to know and love:
• Topanga Lawrence from 'Boy Meets World'
• Donatello from 'Teenage Mutant Ninja
Turtles'
• Hermione Granger from 'Harry Potter'
• Dr. Temperance Brennan from 'Bones'
• Sherlock Holmes
• Tony Stark from 'Iron Man'
Source: http://www.plusbrainpower.com/
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Traits in you that inevitably leads to failure

TRAITS IN YOU THAT INEVITABLY LEADS TO
FAILURE

We have all come to the understanding that
we play a very big role in whatever happens
to us. But while you may seem so exemplary
in your actions, there are some random traits
you might exhibit sometimes or rather
unknowingly that can put anybody off
instantly. This leads to questions like:
• I did all I could, can’t figure out why it did
not work.
• They never said anything, they just cut me
off.
• I was better than the others, but I can’t tell
why I was not selected.
• I know what I am doing, but I am not a
success.
The list is endless, but those are for
illustration so you will know where I am
headed.
So now I have taken my time, after careful
observations of a population of individuals,
and below are some handpicked trait some of
us possess and exhibit and they are definitely
stumbling blocks towards our respective
aspirations.

THE ISLAND MAN

Chances are you might have come across this
trait in others, but I bet that you are also
guilty.
Do you think that you know it all and nobody’s
opinion count, or you feel you can do it on
your own? Well here is a simple analogy, that
earpiece and phone you use in blocking the
world out by listening to music was not even
built by a person. So, while I really respect
people who stand out from others, it is cool
sometimes if you can come out and know
what others think, feel and see about a
particular idea that you have, I bet that you
will be so amazed to see brilliance in diversity
coming to play.
When people notice this in you, they naturally
gravitate away, some might even call you
proud or a snub (obviously, that’s how they
really act) and most times, they would never
say this to your face but they would spread
this around, and end up breaking down the
wall of people around you, and since you
want to stand alone, you definitely, will be
alone now, MR. LONER!
Learn to say hi, how you doing, good morning
… even to complete strangers, you might end
up meeting up with them up ahead and
always ask questions or you might make a
bomb in ignorance and obliterate yourself!

THE UNGRATEFUL OGRE

You are so guilty of this that you are yet to
say thank you to MR. PRECIOUS for this article
(okay! Just kidding).
You are still guilty because you are yet to
show appreciation to that caller, for food, for
clothe… even to GOD.
I want you to understand that anything a
person does for or to you, they have actually
gone out of their own way and comfort zone
just to put smile on your face, and since you
cannot pay back, I do not know why a simple
THANK YOU from you is like beating a dead
horse to gallop.
If you show appreciation, you sure will get
another, for crying out loud, if you know how
your parents, friends, relatives… hustle from
day to day, then the next time you get your
allowance, gifts, school fees… you will shout a
very big THANK YOU!
See this illustration, and say if it is fair. You
give a fellow a gift of cash or anything and
they just receive it from you as if it is their
God-given birthright and to add salt to injury,
the fellow did not even act or say anything
appreciative. I believe really, that on that spot
you will make a mental note never to help or
show favour to such a person {do not say I
am wrong now}. Well, that is how others feel
when you act as if it is your RIGHT to receive
without you been appreciative. Now wonder
how many doors might have been closed to
you just because you overlooked this minor
act of been appreciative before.
Learn to show appreciation for simple things,
that way you build your reputation and the
esteem of the giver. So are you in a
relationship? Be appreciative, to your parents
always say thank you, even to your friend and
strangers for any good they do to you. Even
to kids too, show appreciation and let them
learn that golden virtue!

THE TALKING ROBOT

Talking is very necessary, especially here
where we promote communication and
togetherness, but been a talkative is a very
big NO! And I will personally give you a
thousand yards! {I am serious!}.
Once you are tagged a talkative, Every dick
and harry automatically sees you as a
whistleblower, a plague, an attention seeker,
an impolite fellow... and a non-secretive
person, that alone is a bad attribute. SELF-
DESTRUCTIVE!
No one will ever want you to catch a glimpse
of their business, be a witness to any action
they carry out… just because you cannot keep
your lips together. The picture they will create
of you is that of the exhaust pipe of a heavy
duty truck emitting lead into the environment,
polluting the atmosphere and killing people
gradually.
Why not learn to be observant, think deep
even before making a sentence and stop
taking justice into your mouth. As at now, you
are the Judas of the lot, and no one will ever
want you in their business, because they do
not trust you enough not to blow out to the
world, their innermost plan!

RISKOPHOBIC
{forgive me, just playing with
words!}
You are so scared of taking risks that you take
the very option of folding your hands and
thinking all will fall into place. Now that is
RISKY!
Why are you scared of taking risk when life
itself is compounded with risk; every day you
breath in dead cells, you board a vehicle and
you do not know if the driver is sober or
drunk, you put all your fortune in bank even
when you cannot tell when they will fold up…
every day you live with the risk of living or
dying, a massive gamble, now tell me, what is
more risky?
You just have to be daring and do not be
scared of the outcome of any POSITIVE actions
you take. How can you know what is behind
the door without having it opened? So do not
bother about failing because there is no
better experience than failing and rising again
to succeed.
Christopher Columbus must have been tagged
a fool for daring to take the RISKY venture of
circumnavigating the earth, but today he is
known for discovering AMERICA, a name to
reckon with when you mention world power.
“Google” out Thomas Edison, Michael Faraday
and others and see that risky ventures brings
the best results, because it is for the strong-
willed.
Forget what anyone will say and focus on
accomplishing and setting milestones in
ventures that ordinary people will tag risky.
But be wise, the outcome must be positive in
the long run before you engage in it, not like
jumping into a volcano just to show how
daring you are

PUTTING GOD LAST

I intentionally put this last, because it’s what
most of us do, including me! But frankly it is
the truth; some of us have even forgotten his
existence. To show how predictable we all
are:
We woke up this morning, did a couple of
push-ups, off to the bathroom and out, make
and dress-up and after eating set out into the
world. And if something good comes out that
day, some will remember to say THANK GOD,
and if otherwise {all actions coming in the
negative}, we all say GOD WHY?
Do you know that sleeping and waking in its
own sense is a MIRACLE, and the coolest part
is that you are a beneficiary every day. If you
think it is your doing, then please tell me
how, because when I sleep, I can equate it
with dying: because it is a state when I cannot
tell what happens around, you can pinch or
slap me and I will not budge… and what if the
inevitable happens, like my heart stopping,
am been attacked, can i even defend myself?
I am open to all freethinkers, naturalists and
spiritualists. But we all know the truth even if
we try to conceal it that there is an
OMNIPRESENCE AND OMNISCIENCE GOD. But
at least, let us learn to walk in his principles,
as he supersedes all, watches, cares… and
protect us all.
Always show him respect and always seek his
guidance. Nothing is by chance; air, ocean…
even life. There is a loving father behind it all
and learning to acknowledge him will go a
long way to rid you of many dramas in any
facet of life you find yourself.

                   BY; IRIAEVHO PRECIOUS

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Six lesson to learn in life

Lesson 1 : Unclad Wife
A man is getting into the shower just as his
wife is finishing up her shower when the
doorbell rings. The wife quickly wraps herself
in a towel and runs downstairs. When she
opens the door, there stands Bob, the next
door neighbor. Before she says a word, Bob
says, “I’ll give you $800 to drop that towel.”
After thinking for a moment, the woman
drops her towel and stands Unclad in front of
Bob.
After a few seconds, Bob hands her $800
dollars and leaves. The woman wraps back up
in the towel and goes back upstairs. When she
gets to the bathroom, her husband asks,…
“Who was that?” “It was Bob the next door
neighbor,” shereplies. “Great!” the husband
says, “Did he say anything about the $800 he
owes me?”
Moral of the story:
If you share critical information pertaining to
credit and risk with your shareholders in time,
you may be in a position to prevent avoidable
exposure.
Lesson 2:
A sales rep, an administration clerk, and the
manager are walking to lunch when they find
an antique oil lamp. They rub it and a Genie
comes out. The Genie says, “I’ll give each of
you just one wish” “Me first! Me first!” says
the administration clerk. “I want to be in the
Bahamas, driving a speedboat, without a care
in the world.” Poof! She’s gone. “Me next! Me
next!” says the sales rep. “I want to be in
Hawaii,relaxing on the beach with my
personal masseuse, an endless supply of Pina
Coladas and the love of my life.” Poof! He’s
gone. “OK, you’re up,” the Genie says to the
manager. The manager says, “I want those
two back in the office after lunch.”
Moral of the story:
Always let your boss have the first say.
Lesson 3:
A priest offered a lift to a Nun. She got in and
crossed her legs, forcing her gown to reveal a
leg. The priest nearly had an accident. After
controlling the car, he stealthily slid his hand
up her leg. The nun said,”Father, remember
Matt 7:7?” The priest removed his hand.
But,changing gears, he let his hand slide up
her leg again. The nun once again said,
“Father, remember Matt 7:7?” The priest
apologized “Sorry sister but the flesh is weak.”
Arriving at the convent, the nun went on her
way. On his arrival at the church, the priest
rushed to look up Matt 7:7. It said, “Ask, and
it shall be given unto you. . . ”
Moral of the story:
If you are not well informed in your job,you
might miss a great opportunity.
Lesson 4:
A crow was sitting on a tree, doing nothing all
day. A rabbit asked him,”Can I also sit like
you and do nothing all day long?” The crow
answered: “Sure, why not.” So, the rabbit sat
on the ground below the crow, and rested.
…A fox jumped on the rabbit and ate it.
Moral of the story:
To be sitting and doing nothing, youmust be
sitting very high up.
Lesson 5:
Power of Charisma
A turkey was chatting with a bull “I would love
to be able to get to the top of that tree,”
sighed the turkey, but I haven’t got the
energy.” “Well, why don’t you nibble on my
droppings?” replied the bull. “They’re packed
with nutrients.” The turkey pecked at a lump
of dung and found that it gave him enough
strength to reach the lowest branch of the
tree. The next day, after eating some more
dung, he reached the second branch. Finally
after a fourth night, there he was proudly
perched at the top of the tree. Soon he was
spotted by a farmer, who shot the turkey out
of the tree.
Moral of the story:
Bullshit might get you to the top, but it wont
keep you there.
Lesson 6:
A little bird was flying south for the winter. It
was so cold the bird froze and fell to the
ground into a large field. While he was lying
there, a cow came by and dropped some dung
on him. As the frozen bird lay there in the
pile of cow dung, he began to realize how
warm he was. The dung was actually thawing
him out! He lay there all warm and happy,
and soon began to sing for joy. A passing cat
heard the bird singing and came to
investigate. Following the sound, the cat
discovered the bird under the pile of
cowdung, and promptly dug him out and ate
him.
Moral of the story:
1. Not everyone who shits on you is your
enemy
2. Not everyone who gets you out of poo is
your friend
3. And when you’re in deep poo, it’s best to
keep your mouth shut ! (c)

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