Have you had you mind thinking about a particular thing over and over again even though its not a personal wish? ,this might have gotten a pound out your happiness and psych .sometimes you wonder If others do have this feeling . Stuck thoughts… the brick walls that form a prison around your mind. The harder you try to get rid of them, the more powerful they become.The content or nature of the obsessions have morphed into many different animals over the course of 30-plus years, but their intensity and frequency
remains unchanged.Good news It's a new year! You don't have to be there again ,Here are some strategies that will help you conquer at any of their surprise visit;
1. Don’t talk back.
The first thing you want to do when you get an intrusive thought is to respond with logic. By talking back, you think you can quiet the voice.
However, you actually empower the voice. You give it an opportunity to debate with you and make its case. The more you analyze theobsession — “That is a silly thought because of
reasons A, B, and C” — the more attention you give it and the more intense it becomes.
In “The Mindful Way through Depression “Sorting things
out and forcing a solution will always seem like the most compelling thing to do … but in fact
focusing on these issues in this way is using exactly the wrong tools for the job.”
2. Know it will pass.
I can do anything for a minute. Most things for an hour. A considerable amount for a day or
two or three.Most of my intrusive thoughts — the intense
phase, anyway — have a lifespan of two or
three days. I find the obsessions much more
manageable when I compare them to the cravings for alcohol which comes with intensity and then they leaves . Remember to bear with
them for 24 hours and refrain from doing anything stupid. Then trust me your brain would be yours
again.
Your stuck thoughts are not permanent!. They will be gone soon enough.
3. Focus on now.
Your stuck thought is most likely based in the
past (feelings of regret, mistakes failures, heartbreaks,death of love one etc.) or the future(my career ,future partner, would I achieve my dreams ,would I be poor ?my kids ).Though its good to think about the future and learn from the past,but not to a point of obsession, that you are not longer at ease with yourself . Rarely are we obsessed about something that is happening in the present because we are too
busy living this moment( the past and future ). It can seem impossible to engage with what’s happening in our world in real time when we have a riveting made-for-TV
drama unfolding in our heads, but the more successful we are at tuning into the here and
now, the less tormented we will be by our stuck thoughts. try to be around people and have
conversations so that you concentrate on what they are saying , not the text messages of your chattering mind.
4. Tune into the senses.
An effective way to anchor your mind in the here and now — and away from the obsession du jour — is to tune into the senses. Our five
portals to the world — seeing, smelling, tasting,
feeling, and hearing — can transition us from the doing mode to the being mode. Here is a story , A lady was tucking her daughter into bed the other night she was obsessed about something
that had happened that day: theorizing why it
occurred and arriving at 342 solutions to solve the problem.Her daughter grabbed her hand to
hold, and it occurred to her that she was missing out on a precious moment because of some stupid stuck thought. So she made a conscious effort to focus on her little hand in mind, her
soft, babyish skin against her weathered hands.Concentrating on her hand led her out of her head and into reality. Put your sense into work :see it,feel it,live in that moment!
5. Do something else.
If you can, distract yourself with some other activity. You need not start an ambitious project to change gears. I mean, clearing the rubbish around, cleaning bathroom walls ,reading your favourite book .whatever it is get get your mind busy it might definitely do the job, but
so could walking around the block or working on a word puzzle also .
6. Change your obsession.
You might try to replace your obsession with another one that isn’t so emotional or
damaging. One you think about you smile and wade it off
7. Blame the chemistry.
I experience great relief when I remember that
I am not obsessing about something because that thing is crucial to my existence and should
replace priorities one, two, and three, but rather because the special biochemistry inside my head
is wired to ruminate a lot . The subject of the obsessions isn’t all that important. There is no
catastrophic problem that needs to be solved in the next 24 hours. In fact, the unstuck thought
might be 100 percent fluff, a made-up story the brain fabricated because it couldn’t find
anything interesting enough in real life to warrant ruminations.
9. Admit powerlessness.
If I have tried every technique I can think of and am still tormented by the voices inside my
head?. Get on your knees and admit
powerlessness to God who can solve all issue including this wonderful brain biochemistry. I stop my efforts to free myself
from the obsessions’ hold and allow the ruminations to be as loud as they want and stay positive as long as they want because, as I said in the first point, I know they will eventually go away. Stay free !!!
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